Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher. -Oprah Winfrey
I see the pattern. Again.
I vow to break this pattern once and for all.
Mostly because I don’t have the energy to waste. I’m feeling the result of what happens when you make poor decisions about who to surround yourself with.
I pledge to only collaborate, create with, engage most closely with those that are fully activated and charged up in high vibration. I will no longer belittle myself by allowing low vibe people into my close energy field.
I have done this both in professional and romantic relationships. I end up carrying both of us. I deserve better. I cannot be white hot and surround myself with lukewarm people. Otherwise, the water will never boil. Action, transformation, evolution will not happen no matter how activated I am.
“Before water generates steam, it must register two hundred and twelve degrees of heat. Two hundred degrees will not do it; two hundred and ten will not do it. The water must boil before it will generate enough steam to move an engine, to run a train. Lukewarm water will not run anything.
A great many people are trying to move their life trains with lukewarm water—or water that is almost boiling—and they are wondering why they are stalled, why they cannot get ahead. They are trying to run a boiler with two hundred or two hundred and ten degrees of heat, and they cannot understand why they do not get anywhere.” -He Can Who Thinks He Can
“Forget every idea of right and wrong
Any classroom ever taught you
You have been completely fooled!
Turn your back on those
Who would imprison your wondrous spirit
With deceit and lies.
Come, join the honest company
Who need Divine Love every night. – Hafiz
I have allowed myself to be fooled and taken advantage of over and over. It is my responsibility to change this pattern. I must recognize that although I see the good in everyone, for the sake of my health and prosperity I cannot be taken advantage of. Not everyone is working from pure intentions. Shadow people are real and will take from you.
In my romantic life I see this clearly now. Here’s how it works: I pay for everything. I work all the time so we can have fun together. But the price I’ve paid is high stress and too little sleep. When I allow this to occur then “he” treats me as badly as I’m treating myself.
Most recently in discovering I had been cheated on for two years, I knew something was “off”. I wondered why the harder I tried the meaner he got. Now I understand that he was deflecting his guilt away from himself. Cheaters know they are in the wrong and get mean to the person they are cheating on. I put up with ignoring my intuition that something was weird because I wasn’t protecting my close energy field enough.
“Don’t let people disrespect you. My mom says don’t open the door to the devil. Surround yourself with positive people.” -Cuba Gooding, Jr.
I allowed someone in bed with me that was disrespectful. That went on for 6 years.
I also allowed business associates during the last 5 years to consistently steal and take credit for my work. I’ve even invited them into my home and invested huge amounts of money and time into them.
I have learned my lesson the hard way. Don’t take as long as I did to prioritize your own health, safety, and peace of mind. Only allow fully activated, respectful and honorable people into your closest life circle. Learn from me to set a stronger Self-Love Boundary.
Love yourself, love your day, love your life! Silvia
“I think it’s important to get your surroundings as well as yourself into a positive state – meaning surround yourself with positive people, not the kind who are negative and jealous of everything you do.” -Heidi Klum
“To all the other dreamers out there, don’t ever stop or let the world’s negativity disenchant you or your spirit. If you surround yourself with love and the right people, anything is possible.” -Adam Green
“If you want to become healthy, you have to surround yourself with a group of people that are getting healthy, and you have to be connected to a community that is doing what you want to do.” -Henry Cloud