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why are you single?

I just got asked this same question,
“How are you still single?”
I get where you’re coming from, it’s meant to be a “compliment.”
It also feels like a micro aggression because it implies a lot of things, a couple of which are:

  1. Being single is not an acceptable choice.
    I certainly can’t want this.
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  2. It assumes no one chooses me.
    Because the fact I might not choose them back can’t be happening.
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    And so much more.
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    It also most often gets accompanied with uncomfortable laughter and undertones of pity.
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    There are incredulous follow up questions after I say why I’m single (watch video for my standard response.)
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    🤔 How could I possibly be happy being single?
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    AND, is something secretly wrong with me? (Ah no.)
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    🔥❤️ Here’s the thing, if you’re not happy by yourself, you won’t be happy in healthy relationship.
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    “You complete me,” from Jerry McGuire movie is a BS story too many of us accepted as truth.
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    A happy couple is made from two happy people. (Dr William Holden from the book Be Happy.)
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    Until you love yourself and your own company, the foundation won’t be strong enough to build conscious partnership with your beloved.
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    Saturday musings from my bike in #stpetersburg

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Hi love, I’m Silvia!

I’m a specialist in starting over. 

Trauma revealed truths that took me to some faraway places for healing and wisdom. In Bali, South America, New Zealand, Australia, Laos, Hawaii and Malaysia, I soaked it up, took bold actions, and expanded what was possible for me.

Through all of this I learned something profound; the power of resiliency can be taught and even making a 5% change can change the future dramatically.

Now I teach women like you to access the power within you to change your life, celebrate your genius and start over to create any life you dare to dream.