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why are you single?

I just got asked this same question,
“How are you still single?”
I get where you’re coming from, it’s meant to be a “compliment.”
It also feels like a micro aggression because it implies a lot of things, a couple of which are:

  1. Being single is not an acceptable choice.
    I certainly can’t want this.
  2. It assumes no one chooses me.
    Because the fact I might not choose them back can’t be happening.
    And so much more.
    It also most often gets accompanied with uncomfortable laughter and undertones of pity.
    There are incredulous follow up questions after I say why I’m single (watch video for my standard response.)
    🤔 How could I possibly be happy being single?
    AND, is something secretly wrong with me? (Ah no.)
    🔥❤️ Here’s the thing, if you’re not happy by yourself, you won’t be happy in healthy relationship.
    “You complete me,” from Jerry McGuire movie is a BS story too many of us accepted as truth.
    A happy couple is made from two happy people. (Dr William Holden from the book Be Happy.)
    Until you love yourself and your own company, the foundation won’t be strong enough to build conscious partnership with your beloved.
    Saturday musings from my bike in #stpetersburg

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Hi love, I’m Silvia!

I’m a specialist in starting over. 

Trauma revealed truths that took me to some faraway places for healing and wisdom. In Bali, South America, New Zealand, Australia, Laos, Hawaii and Malaysia, I soaked it up, took bold actions, and expanded what was possible for me.

Through all of this I learned something profound; the power of resiliency can be taught and even making a 5% change can change the future dramatically.

Now I teach women like you to access the power within you to change your life, celebrate your genius and start over to create any life you dare to dream.